This morning I received a very hateful comment on this blog. It was not about me, it was about my child. Let me say that I’ve had spiteful comments directed towards me before and I just delete them. But when someone says something aimed at hurting my child, it is not ok.
For awhile this morning I contemplated shutting down the blog because throwing my kids into a situation where they could be hurt, even emotionally, is not something I’m willing to do. But I’m not going to do that because then that person that tried to hurt us won a greater battle than one of just a few words which I deleted with one push of a button.
Even though what I’m going to say will probably not make everyone happy, it’s something that needs to be done.
So let me say;
1. When I share my life on this blog I know I open up my family to criticism or remarks that I will not agree with. I know I can shelter my kids from it by just deleting it before it’s seen. I can’t protect them from all the harmful things that will be told to them in the future by misguided people but I can set an example for them of not backing down but of knowing who I am and what I believe in. Dealing with negative comments is not without hurt and pain but when you know who you are, it’s a lot easier to press delete without a second thought.
2. My children, as are all children, are amazing. If you don’t agree with me, stop reading this blog.
3. If you have a problem with me, please email me directly. If you email me I can respond and we can work it out in private, which is the same courtesy I would afford to you. However if you leave a nameless comment on someone’s blog with no way for them to contact you, you’re just being a bully and are achieving nothing.
4. If you have a problem with one of my children, stop reading this blog.
5. This is my blog. Once upon a time I didn’t want to be the blogger that deleted comments. That has changed. Any comment that is derogatory or oozing with negativity will be deleted. It’s ok to have a respectful disagreement but let’s leave in that keyword, respectful.
That being said, I want to hear your thoughts and comments. I want to build an awesome community within this blog where we can inspire each other towards creativity and a new system of successful yet slightly insane parenting.
If you are one of the main commenters (you know who you are) that are always encouraging and uplifting, thank you.
How will you encourage and lift someone up today?
I absolutely love your blog and all the great, crazy stories about your family! Your girls crack me up! It makes me so sad that someone feels the need to be mean to a child. Honestly, that is plain sick. I say delete negative comments! There is no place for them on your blog!
Your blog is always where I start my morning. I enjoy it a lot! It is always uplifting and funny! It’s a bit dangerous to drink coffee while reading it though…a few times you made me laugh so hard I was very close to spitting coffee everywhere! Thank you for keeping your blog.
Thank you
and I’m sorry about the coffee issues.
Boo on negative commenters – why do people even do that? My mom always taught me that if I cant say something nice then I shouldn’t say anything at all – apparently some people missed that lesson
Honestly, I really can’t think of anything bad that someone could say about your beautiful Princesses! And good for you for not letting that person win. I think your girls will be glad that you documented their youth via this wonderful blog when they grow up (and you will to). They will have pictures and memories of these years to look back on and remember! Oh, and I was going to comment this yesterday but ran out of time – that last Princess Newbie picture at the park – I wish my hair looked like hers – such a pretty color and so straight and undamaged! Cant wait to read about your next adventures 
Thank you!
Amen…Love your blog, love your kids, love you. Dont let a negative person bring you down…DELETE, DELETE, DELETE. Especially anonymous, wow, they are tough:) Your blog touches so many and I look forward to and check for new posts every day. Keep up the good work.
Thanks and I miss you guys.
I had such a terrible feeling in my stomach when I read about your horrible experience. How sad that someone took their unhappiness or lack of good manners out on your family. You need to take it from the source as well. an anonymous comment means nothing because it is coming from a coward in my opinion. Please continue your fantastic blog and ignore them. My mother always told me, and I always told my own children that you can’t make everyone happy, but to always use your best manners. By ignoring the hateful comment you are doing just that-showing that you are the better person. It is sad that there are those in the world that are like this, but “carry on.”
I do love your blog and enjoy reading about your life and family.
My husband always tells me that a hurting person hurts people. I’m going to work on having sympathy for that person because obviously they aren’t happy. Thank you for the kind words.
I LOVE YOU.
I LOVE ALL YOUR CHILDREN.
I LOVE YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY.
I’m so glad your not shutting down your blog, it delights and makes me happy every time I visit.
That poor sad individual. To have a heart full of hate.
Love reigns supreme on clumsycrafter.com
Hate be gone.
Love overfill every reader you touch.
Hugs and kisses:)
I love how you think. It was easy yesterday to be very very angry at that person but I agree with you now that I’m sad for them that their heart does have so much hate. You are so wise.
I’m on of “those” readers that never clicks over from the blog reader…but that is so ridiculous that someone would be mean to a child, I had to say something. Shame on them!! Some comments were meant to be deleted!
I have no idea how I found your blog and I don’t think I have ever left a comment before but today I am.
YOU GO MOMMA!! Delete away the nasties!
My kids are grown up and I really enjoy “visiting” here. You always make me laugh and help me remember the fun zany times I had while raising my children. And as someone stated above….someday your girls will LOVE to look back at your blog.
Have a great day!!
I totally agree with Lisa W. I love the girls, I love you and I love the funniness. I can’t make this part of my morning routine anymore because well, my work is a bunch of nazi internet history trackers, but I still love reading and laughing at everything as often as I can! Haters gonna hate, just delete!
I’m glad you decided to delete the hate and keep doing what you’re doing.
Those who try to inflict hurt on innocent children have a sickness in their souls.
And to do so annonymously proves them to be a coward also. Delete, block them if you can, pray for them, then forget it.
Bobbie you have a gift – a wonderful ability to communicate through your writing. You have a tremendous capacity to love, a wonderful sense of humor and the ability to take us all along with you as you share stories from your life. Your stories are honest, warm, funny and real.
Don’t ever let such cowards cause you to walk away from that gift.
I just stumbled upon your blog today. I’ve never visited, but based on the way you handled the situation that you speak of, I KNOW that’ll I’ll visit regularly. A round of applause to you. Wishing you continued success in ALL of your endeavors!